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9 Steps to Getting There: Part 1

6/4/2019

 
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About a year ago I was just days away from embarking on my first self-sponsored adventure overseas. Naturally, I had a bit of a reflective/OMG moment – How did I even get here? I thought about all the planning and learning that I did to arrive at the cusp of this thing that I had dreamed about for so long. I was finally about to be there.

In this 3 part series, want to share the basic steps I took to get to my “there”. Notice I didn’t title this post “9 EASY Steps”…some of these are not easy at all. Some may take months of planning and saving, require sacrifice and powers of persuasion, or even tempt you to say “Screw it! It just ain’t happening” - but if you can push through, you just might get to your “there” and trust me, it’ll be worth it.

Step 1: What’s your motivation?

The desire to jet off to a faraway land may stem from any number of motivators. Maybe you watched a documentary about Fiji and became inspired to go see it for yourself. Or your cousin kept going on and on at Thanksgiving about his month in Belize and now you just have to top it before the next family gathering. Maybe the neighbor down the street is constantly out of town, working all over the world, while you sit in your cube wishing you could do the same. Or maybe you’re creating a bucket list and exploring Sydney is at the top of it.

Determining your motivation is key. If you’re motivated by jealousy or general malcontent, you may want to ask yourself what you’re really looking for. It’s a good idea to lay a positive foundation for your journey – you want your experience to be about fulfilling your dreams, not one-upping the Jones’. Besides, who needs the bad karma?

Step 2: Where is there?

You may already know where you want to go because you’ve always wanted to go there. Or you may know what country or region, but not have an idea about specifics. In either case, there are details to consider. This is the beginning of the research part that will both excite and drain you. 

If you’re not sure where to go exactly, just ask yourself this question: Beach, city, or countryside? If you want all three, there are places that cover them all in the span of 10 miles or so, but generally this will help you narrow it down. Also there are plenty of “Top 10 Places to Visit”- type articles out there for ideas. 

More realistically, you’ve already envisioned yourself in your dream destination. Learn as much as you can and take notes about the neighborhoods, the attractions, the transportation system, and the culture of the people. Brush up on the language a bit – it’ll be worth the effort.

Step 3: Who’s coming?

Once you’re good and passionate about your mecca, it’s time to scout out a travel partner. Though you can go it alone, I do recommend taking a friend if this is your first time out of the country. Put the word out, but don’t get too excited if a lot of people appear to be fired up at the idea of foreign travel. Once you get down to the nitty-gritty of budgeting and planning, many simply won’t be able to commit. But all you need is one for the sake of hope! When you find that one, be sure to stay open and flexible to your friend’s travel dreams as well – remember: two heads are better than one and two adventurers have more fun. And yes…I realize that was a bit corny!

[Next up: Planning your trip – starting with the budget.]

Cali Calling

6/10/2015

 
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Summer travel season is back and there's nothing like planning a trip to spark my motivation to blog again. 
This year, my big trip will be to the West Coast. Thanks to my friend who's a California local, we will get to experience some hidden gems as well as some quintessential Cali tourist spots.

California has been calling my name for as long as I can remember. One of the big items on my "lifetime to-do list" is to drive up the Pacific Coast Highway, in a top-down convertible, the wind in my hair, and a pair of spectacular shades donning my smiling face! I can hardly wait to explore all the beaches along that iconic roadway. I will finally get to do this next month and I couldn't be more excited!

We'll also be exploring 3 major cities in California: San Diego, Los Angeles, and San Francisco (which is another "to do" on my list). In another post, I'll list our intended itinerary that can be used as a starter travel guide if you plan on visiting the Golden State too. 

One thing that I cannot take for granted, and one thing that I highly recommend cultivating for yourself, is acquiring kind and generous friends in far places. Sometimes it happens by chance, other times you can seek people out through online groups or family connections. However these friends come into your life, I recommend pouring into relationships like these, not to earn a "free stay" favor, but because you can expand your opportunities and your world by simply paying a visit to a friend. Many different cultural experiences can be had just by getting out of your neighborhood, much more your state or country. Having good friends in far places opens up your world and theirs to new experiences and once-in-a-lifetime chances. And don't forget to return the favor - invite them to your neighborhood too.

Keep following the blog for travel ideas you can use for your trips this summer. Let me know what tips you like best! You can also follow my actual adventures in California at the end of July-August on Insta (#shebirdielife + #californiabirdie).

  • Are you one of our California birdies or have you visited recently?
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Travel Quote Series: The Who Factor

2/10/2015

 
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“As with any journey, who you travel with can be more important than your destination.”  - Unknown

Trekking halfway across the world is no small feat! You pour in your time and money to plan this amazing experience and you always want the ideal situation: no hiccups, no glitches, no missing luggage or room reservations, and no drama from your travel companion.

I think one of the worst things in the world is to save up and look forward to a big exciting moment, only to have something you can’t change ruin it. Attitude is everything, especially in situations where things aren’t going as planned. It helps if the person you’re traveling with can help you roll with the punches rather than be a source of them. This is why I’ve said that choosing the right travel partner (or partners) is key! Once you’re on that plane, you’re essentially joined at the hip with whomever you’ve chosen to go on this adventure with you. 

Not only do you want a drama-free experience, but you also want to be able to revel together in the incredibility of it all. It’s important to be on the same page with the people you travel with. You want to be able to relate in the novelty of the adventure you’re on together. A great travel partner will share in the awe of being there. They may contribute some thought provoking conversation about the places you’re visiting, or just stare in silent wonder along with you. They will be in those moments with you, taking it all in with true appreciation.

There is something about getting away from home that brings out a different side to us. The best part about traveling with the right people is that you’ll come away from the trip with a better sense of who they, and you, truly are. 

I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Please share below.

To Solo or Not to Solo

2/10/2015

 
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First, I’ll say, there is much respect reserved for people who go out and do “social things” alone. It’s seen as a mark of maturity and confidence and in certain situations it’s just plain ballsy. Going out to see a movie, dining out in a popular restaurant, checking out a ballgame or a concert – going solo in these social settings can be liberating. You may discover something new about yourself or pay attention to things you hadn’t before. I definitely recommend challenging yourself to try it (if that would be a challenge for you). However, going solo on a trip to a foreign country, or even another state, is a whole other beast. 

Now, we all know there are plenty of people who trek across the globe on their own journeys of self-discovery (many of them have their own travel blogs!). Or you may personally know someone who just likes to go off alone once a year to a mountain cabin to reflect on life or work on his memoir. To each, his own and more power to them! It truly is a mark of confidence and shows a desire for self-awareness – good stuff. But I would say, if you’re a newbie traveler or you’ve never been out of the country before, take a friend. 

Experiencing a new country, people, and culture is an exciting experience. It’s one that you’ll want to share. Having a friend with you to co-experience a truly awesome moment or to capture those photos of you in front of the Eiffel Tower (selfies are nearly impossible in this case, trust me) is indispensable. 

Not only will you be able to share all the fun, but you’ll also have each other’s backs. Being safe in foreign country is a no-brainer (though…it does require using your brain – more on that in another post). The good old buddy system rule comes into play here. You can research to your hearts content, but when you’re lost in the seedy part of Camden, you’ll feel loads better knowing you’re not there alone. Plus two heads are better than one – it’s much easier to work your way out of a sticky situation with two minds engaged in the process.

I will confess, I have not yet ventured out on a solo trip. I’m sure there are many benefits to this, but I haven’t experienced them…yet. When I do, I’ll be sure to fill you in on what I learn. Until then, you’re probably wondering how to actually get a friend to commit to a big trip – see more about that here.

I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Please share below.

The Cubicle Escape

2/10/2015

 
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Let's be honest. Half the time you spend in that work cubicle, you’re not actually working, but daydreaming about being anywhere but there. Between spreadsheets, phone calls, and coffee breaks, you’re wishing you could be on a faraway Tahitian beach, sipping Mai-tais, and feeling the breeze on your face. Or maybe you imagine yourself backpacking through Spain with your 10th grade conversational Spanish skills barely getting you by. Or maybe you’re longing for the rush of an international city – London’s crowded tube and countless pubs are beckoning you to “live like a local” to your heart’s content.

We’ve all been there – that place in our minds – our escape zone. 

As young professionals working to make our way in this world, it’s easy to fall into the rut of our daily grind. We seek an escape, if only a mental one, to relieve some of the pressure and remind us that we are human beings with a desire to experience all that life has to offer. But this mental escape can become a reality with a little planning and a lot of determination. Even if you don’t think you can afford it, or you don’t have a lot of vacation time, or you don’t know a word of French (Spanish, Mandarin, etc.), it IS possible to see the world! In fact, it’s important that you do. 

You know there is more to life than the four walls of your cubicle, your apartment, and your favorite spot for Friday night happy hour. Whatever your four walls are, if you’re ready to go beyond them, keep reading. There’s much more to come!

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    Mel

    SHEbirdie | ESCAPE is for anyone who's seeking a little adventure and a realistic escape from the daily grind. Believe me, I know what that's like! My dreams of traveling the world seemed far off and impossible, but they are starting to come true. This blog is a way to share my journey with you and possibly join you on yours.

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